For some, communicating online comes easily, while others have difficulties, not always related to the language barrier. What do experts in this field recommend – psychologists, representatives of successful marriage agencies, employees of large dating sites?
Brush Up Your English
The main mistake of our brides is gaps in education. Moreover, it is not necessary to be fluent in a foreign language. But having at least some general idea of how to correctly construct phrases is a necessity. If you try to write to a foreigner the same way you are used to communicating in your native language, it is unlikely to turn out well.
Using online translators is not the best option. Before starting to communicate, brush up your English, and even better, learn another European language. For example, German or French.
Carefully Study Information About the Person
Quite definite conclusions can be drawn from the information a person has posted about themselves. For example, many men do not want serious relationships and are not shy about it. It is not worth spending time on them, because online dating for marriage is not for these men. If a man writes in his profile that he is looking for an attractive girl of a certain height, specifies the 'right' hair color, eye color, and body type, he is unlikely to be looking for a life partner.
Only Positivity!
Always talk (write) only about good things. Do not develop or support topics that carry negativity. Even in episodes when the interlocutor talks about some world problems and catastrophes, try to steer the conversation. For example, onto his hobbies and favorite movies or another topic – if not positive, then at least neutral.
By the way, if you start noticing that a man regularly 'veers' into negativity, that is a danger signal. A constant 'problematic' direction of conversation indicates that there are some serious problems in the interlocutor's life.
Communicate About the Present
In such a delicate matter as dating for marriage, there are ironclad rules. For example, never start conversations about the man's ex-girlfriends. He will tell you himself if he wants to. By the way, if the interlocutor constantly returns to the topic of past relationships, that is also an alarming signal. He most likely has not forgotten or forgiven his ex. Gently persuade the interlocutor not to return to this topic. You can use a simple trick by saying: 'I constantly feel that your mood gets worse when you talk about your past life. But I really want to see you happy.'
By maintaining a light and relaxed communication style, you can become a comfortable interlocutor, someone pleasant to talk to and with whom you can relax. And such acquaintances have every chance of growing into something more than a long-distance relationship.
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